Sex Addiction Groups
The Twelve-Step groups that deal with sex addiction make an interesting study for what unites and differentiates addicts. Of these four groups for sex addicts, the main difference is how they deﬁne the problem and the resulting concept of abstinence.
Sexaholics Anonymous has the most rigid deﬁnitions. Members must have “a desire to stop lusting and become sexually sober.” Their First Step says they are powerless over lust. Sobriety is deﬁned as no sex at all for single sexaholics, and sex only with the spouse for those who are married. Masturbation is excluded for all. There is also a “progressive victory over lust,” whether married or single.
PO Box 3565
Brentwood, TN 37024
(615) 370-6062, (866) 424-8777 (toll-free)
Sex Addicts Anonymous members need “a desire to stop addictive sexual behavior.” In the First Step they admit they are powerless over their addictive sexual behavior. They do not have a universal definition of abstinence. For “sobriety”, members are encouraged to use the Three Circles, a tool using three concentric circles. They put behaviors they consider “acting out” and want to abstain from in the Inner Circle. They put those which may lead to acting out or are unsure of, in the Middle Circle. In the Outer Circle they put healthy behaviors. This sounds a lot like the concept we call Moderation.
Sex Addicts Anonymous
PO Box 70949
Houston, TX 77270
(713) 869-4902 or 800-477-8191 (toll free)
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous, also called The Augustine Fellowship, is for people who have “the desire to stop living out a pattern of sex and love addiction.” They are powerless over sex and love addiction. SLAA asks members to deﬁne their bottom-line behavior, which “leads to loss of control over rate, frequency, or duration of its recurrence, resulting in worsening self-destructive consequences.” That bottom line usually excludes victimizing, secretive, and anonymous sex. SLAA has the greatest percentage of women, and romance addicts would probably feel comfortable in it.
Sexual Compulsives Anonymous is a much smaller group, friendly to many sexual orientations. Their members need “a desire to stop having compulsive sex.” They admit they are powerless over their sexual compulsion, and members develop their own sexual recovery plan. This plan deﬁnes their sexual sobriety, and through it they learn to express their God-given sexuality in healthy ways.
PO Box 1585, Old Chelsea Station
New York, NY 10011
There are also several groups for family and friends of sex addicts. They are patterned after Al-Anon and are loosely affiliated with SA, SAA, and SLAA respectively:
PO Box 17294
Nashville, TN 37217
(615) 833-3152 or 800-210-8141 (toll-free)
Sex addiction groups, see also: Adolescents, Children of addicts, Enabling, Families Anonymous, History of Twelve-Step groups, Meetings, Other support groups, Steps of AA, Therapy & treatment, Traditions of AA.
Updated 12 Sep 2015
Addictionary 2 by Jan & Judy Wilson
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