Step Seven

Humbly Asked

“Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings.”

Important concepts imbedded in Step Seven include:

  • What is humility?
  • Material achievement vs. humility and spiritual values
  • A desire to seek and do God’s will
  • Humiliations force learning about humility
  • A wider meaning of humility
  • Humility is a healer of pain
  • God is not just for emergencies
  • Humility is a guide to move out of yourself to others and to God

This step is relatively simple (but not necessarily easy) if you have laid the groundwork for it in Step Six. The chief obstacle to positive change is fear. You may be afraid that you or others won’t like the change, or that you won’t know how to cope with it, or that it will cost you in some way. In fact, it might feel more vulnerable to live honestly and to let go of those character defects, many of which are defensive in nature. But the rewards are great, including the ability to recover from your addiction.

Not Alone

Before you get overwhelmed with the task, remember that you don’t have to do it alone. In fact, this Step clearly states that you can’t do it alone. Humility is the key to admitting that by yourself you are inadequate for removing your shortcomings. You have the Twelve-Step program, the people in it, perhaps a counselor or therapist, other supportive people, and, of course, your Higher Power (or Program, who may work through these agents to help you remove your character defects.


Step Seven, see also: Affirmations, Assertiveness, Attitudes, Behavior, Body image, Character defects, Fear, Feelings, Grief, Guilt & shame, Higher Power, Humility, Money, Paradoxes in addiction, Perfectionism, Program, Resentments, Responsibility, Self-centeredness, Serenity, Spending, Step Four, Step Six, Step Eight, Surrender, Survival roles.

Updated 11 Sep 2015

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